Episode 16

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3rd Jun 2024

A Journey of Discovery, Healing & Connecting Back to Ourselves

Diana Lockett, International Best Selling Author | Transformational Speaker | Conscious Communication Leadership Consultant /Spiritual Relational Coach, joined us to share her thoughts on healing from the inside out.

You can find her book: https://www.dianalockett.com/

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Hi and welcome to The You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we have with us Diana Lockett. Diana is an international best selling author, transformational speaker, Conscious leadership consultant, spiritual relationship coach, speaker and language pathologist and she is here to wrap that all up with a beau.

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For us, because it's a mouthful. Welcome to the show, Diana. It's really great to have you here.

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Yeah. Thank you so much for having me here, Jill. It's my privilege and my pleasure to be here.

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So do you wrap that up for us? How did how did we get all these titles? And? And you're also a yoga instructor, trainer and just like, it's a lot of things, but I think you you tie them all together nicely.

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Oh yeah.

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That exhale is because when I hear about all the things that all the hats that I wear.

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Let's call them hats. So it sounds like a lot and, you know, people say, what do you do? And there's so much to that question. What do you do? But if you're asking me, what are some of my services and deliverables in the world?

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It's all those things that you listed and the last thing you mentioned, speech and language pathologist was actually my first career. And I have a book that I've written recently. We'll talk about it after and in the book I talk about how I grew up in an environment where my voice was really diminished my.

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Presence was too big. I learned to be a good little quiet little girl scene but not heard, and I played the role that was given to me along with my three siblings, in a very neglectful and abusive.

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Environment Fast forward to in my early 20s, I found out about this thing called speech language pathology, and I went into this career where even though my own voice was diminished, I went into a career to help others access their voice and my specialty for 20 of my 35 years working has been as a specialist in augmentative communication.

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Which is working with nonverbal children and helping to find systems for them to be able to communicate. I work there as a consultant. I also do some direct intervention, have private practice, so that's 1/2.

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And then when I was in my early 30s, I started getting a little rattled by, let's call it, the universe or the God of your understanding. Something started to rattle me awake where I had realized I had been sleepwalking for most of my life, and I recognized that there was something inside me that was calling for me to attend.

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To it to heal it and to love it. And it took, like 1520 years of really intensive work working with energy healers, working with yoga, working with inner child, doing a lot of somatic or embodiment practices.

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And mindfulness practices, and I was introduced to yoga, fell in love with yoga started right away, becoming a yoga teacher, and within months, starting my own yoga teacher training Academy, where I trained people. I've also owned yoga studios. In that journey, I also taught mindfulness and education. And I realized that there were a lot of people who did not roll out their yoga mat.

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To learn some of these really deep healing relational tools that I shared to the students of the Yoga Teacher training program. So I started offering coaching and it was one-on-one coaching initially. Then I went into the school system and did it as a consultant and then I go into corporations and I do it as consulting and in that environment it similar to.

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I incorporate mindfulness, but it's a lot of relational and a lot of personal healing.

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Obviously down in a way that's not too confrontational in the workspace, but super, super relatable, essential for success. A lot of the work I do is nervous system release work, understanding of how our nervous system works, the science of nervous system meets spirituality meets relational skills, and I deliver that all together.

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As a pack.

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And then in 2015, my life had gone through a lot of ups and downs. In yoga world, we call it spanda, which is the ebb and flow of life, which we all go through. Lots of people have gone through some tough times. I just seem to have hit a lot of bottoms really fast, like in succession. And somehow I managed to get up each.

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Time and I recognize that my life has been one defined by what I would call post traumatic growth in the psychology language rather than post traumatic stress. And I used a lot of the tools that I had to help to propel me forward. Every time that I fell down and I realized that there was a way to share this with people. And that's what I do.

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On my podcasts, that's what I do on my speaking engagements, and that's what I put into this book that I've written recently that took seven years to write, which in between I wrote six other books because those were easy. Those were compilation books. I wrote a chapter in the book.

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And this idea of writing my entire memoir and then somehow finding a conclusion to it was extremely daunting for me. So it took seven years to write my book.

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I paused a little bit in 2019. I wrote these six other books compilation books, which is a chapter.

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And then in 2020, when?

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All of us felt.

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This immense, massive change in the world and and in our lives and in our health and our well-being and our what? What's taking up mind space? I had some really traumatic experiences.

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Happen essentially four in a row. Really big life changes that were outside of my control.

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And I took the time.

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To really go inwards and look and see what is left to heal in me that has not yet fully been loved, and so I quit healing with love.

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Healing is not. I've gotten over this. I can put it away and I don't have to deal with it again. Healing is pulling it closer and saying how can I love this even more? There's this part of me that was so reactive, so controlling, so impatient. How can I love those parts of me too? We call them our shadows, the disown parts of ourselves.

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And so my work was all about calling in those parts of me that really were sitting just below the surface of all of my grief and justice, above all of my grief, like my grief was sandwiched in them, grief of a lifetime, of a little girl who really didn't know her belonging and didn't understand her contribution into the world. So I finally finished the book in 2022.

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After a massive transition in my life and published it last spring and it's called the call to freedom, heal your pain, awaken your loving presence.

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And it's the memoir that ties all of those things that you mentioned. All of those hats that I wear into my humanity. These aren't just roles that I play. This is who I am. And these are the practices and the strategies and the skills that have been taught to me, some that I developed. And I've put it all in the book for others. I call it medicine for the reader.

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To be able to take personal responsibility, radical responsibility for their lives, for their healing and for their loving heart.

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That's amazing.

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It is so interesting how the world shifted in 2020. It was, it was palpable. And it wasn't just like one region. It was all of us. We all changed quickly, and we went from just accepting what was.

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To use your metaphor, you know the the be quiet and sit down and be a good little girl. It it was just like, no, no, I'm not doing that anymore. And it was on a lot of fronts. And it's men and women together. But mainly I think women.

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Who are just like, no, I I'm tired of of the controlling attitude that that the world and society has placed on.

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They expect us to just do all these things and go along with the way things have been for a period of time and it hasn't been forever because things do shift in societies, but.

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As a whole, we just decided.

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And I don't have to live like that.

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I don't have to stay in this box and.

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More, I mean like aspects of what I'm doing and who I am that I can really explore the the bigger picture of what makes me, me, and I love that you have so many titles because we're not just one thing, we're we're human beings. We have.

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Lots of things that we want to go after, yeah.

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Yeah. And then there's a lot of things that I've learned not to go after, like I'm a big part of my spiritual practice is not attaching to my identities, not attaching to the hats that I wear. When people say what do you do? First thing I do is I love to go hiking. I love to be a mother. I love to be a fur baby owner.

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I love to sleep. I love to practice yoga. Oh, yeah. And I teach yoga and I speak and I write. And I'm also work as a speech language pathologist. Like we've become. It's so easy. We've been so conditioned to attach to our titles and in the relational world, we talk about masculine feminine energy and the masculine energy that we all carry is the doer and the feminine.

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Energy as the receiver and I know that many women sort of related to what you talked about your experience through 2020, a lot of women have been raised to be doers. We have something to prove. We have to match. We have to, we have to.

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Fact. And it's it's. Ohh it's makes me so sad that that's how I was raised. And how many women were raised. And so my we've talked about this at the beginning my capacity to receive my capacity to let go of my control my capacity to be able to ask for support and ask for help like that's something I've had to practice.

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Cultivate in my lifetime, because I was brought up this girl that had to do it all. One because I had a mother who was incapacitated through my childhood. I've had a father who was abusive and I had partners who really enjoyed the persona that.

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That I played in those relationships that weren't necessarily fully expressive of who I am in my totality, and so I've had to really and I continue to really look at the parts of me that can be in judgment of of me, of others and how can I reconcile that and make peace with it and not let it control me.

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In 2020, when COVID was announced, I was in the air with my son, flying to Iceland, meeting my daughter there, and we landed. We were told there was this global pandemic declared while we were in the air. We'd have to fly home. Schools were closing. All everything that we all know and we were in Ontario in Canada, and it was.

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Massive lockdown. Everything was locked down, schools were closed for essentially 16 months. Work businesses were closed, many businesses closed permanently. Everything was remote. People didn't see their families, didn't see their friends.

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And I followed the rules. I didn't know any different. I followed the rules to a certain degree. I did a lot of like distance yoga teaching in my backyard, went for walks with people occasionally, but essentially was locked in my home with a 14 year old boy for 16 months and having just said goodbye to my 15 year marriage.

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The day I walked home into my home from from the trip to Iceland.

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Knowing that there was somehow we had to quarantine for two weeks, my husband walked out of the home so we could quarantine and he never walked back in. My father died of COVID during the pandemic in a horrible mistake. Nursing right nursing home crisis in Montreal. My daughter moved across the country and I lost my 16 year old cat. And this all happened within a few months.

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My heart just got so heavy and I decided, OK, I need to dedicate time to this heaviness, to love it, to be able to be in relationship with.

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But I can't dedicate all my time to it because that would be called depression and I wouldn't get out of bed. And I was the only human that, that 14 year old had contact with. So I had to show up for him and it was hard and it was difficult. And we got through it. And at the end of it, I became very clear what I wanted.

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And he and I, my son and I moved across Canada to British Columbia, and we now live in a beautiful mountain region north of Vancouver that's coastal as well. So it's kind of the best of both world.

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And that wouldn't have happened like my life wouldn't be where it is today with that all of those experiences. So I can meet them all now today, like four years later with some with some gratitude at the time, it was really hard. And I've learned a lot about myself and I've lot learned a lot about how to support other people in a way that I wouldn't have had I not gone through that. I've been coaching for 15 years. I've been doing.

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ITT certification programs for 20 years, like I had some skill and tools, but this was next level for me. And so I work with people now, one-on-one as well.

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Where they are at a crossroad in their life and they do not know what to do and I help them to unpack it and then I help them to reconcile and fall in love with their decisions.

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I love that it. It's so interesting.

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To be raised in in a world where you're.

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I can relate to what you're talking about in terms of.

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When we were growing up.

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As girls.

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We were told a certain a certain line and then I don't know how old you are, but I would imagine that you also made it through that period of time where women were expected to do it all, but still be the good little wife.

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Which is.

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You know you can't hold a career and raise children and keep a house and be there for your husband as the emotional support.

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It kind of gets to the point of, you know, why do I have a husband?

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I'm doing it all myself anyway.

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So yeah, absolutely.

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I think COVID was was kind of a blessing for most of us in that it did allow time for us to go inward and it caused depression for a lot of people because they don't have the tools or didn't have the tools to really look at.

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What was happening to them? I mean it's it's hard to just spend time by yourself.

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So that the difference is when we go into depression, we're going into like in if we look at the nervous system, fight flies, fight, flight freeze and fawn, we're going into the freeze and fawn state. We don't want to feel. So the easiest thing is to just shut it off and not feel. And the body and the brain respond with all the right chemicals to keep you in that state.

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Right. The difference with the work that I did and why my book is called Heal Your Pain Awake in your Loving presence is I chose to bring loving presence. Attention. I went into the pain, I went into the grief. I went into the anger. I went into, the disappointments. I went into the abuse. I went into it knowing that the only way to put down.

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Something, anything is to 1st pick.

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App and so the opportunity to do that, of course it, you know I had supports I had I had people on speed dial, coaches and therapists on speed dial. If there were days where I knew I was not going to be able to leave my little office that was in the middle of the country, I would not be able to leave my office without being a mess and wouldn't be able to have.

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Capacity to be a parent to my.

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Kiddo, if that happened, I would call one of my line one of my people who were like my what's the expression? They're my lifeline. And you know, sometimes it would literally take 5 minutes. All I needed was to be witnessed in my pain, in my discomfort, in my lack of capacity. And as soon as I was witnessed.

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I was able to put it down so again it's like picking it up before we can put it down and it's hard and I have 20 years of tools, 25 years now in my tool belt, which includes meditation.

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Breath work, breath work is essential. Somatic embodiment practices, movement practices, asking and receiving. Those are all super important. Writing, journaling, really important, and sometimes they're big emotions that I'm needing to release and writing doesn't just do it and screaming into a pillow.

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Doesn't just do it, because that's just stifling your voice some more.

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So I have to find someplace to release, and sometimes I'll put on really loud music and sing.

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Like, yell the.

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Words very choice words and very choice. Music. Sometimes I'll go up here in town. We have a gondola and I'll go take the gondola to the top of the mountain and I'll literally have a little temper tantrum and yell at the mountains and yell at the sky.

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And I get it out by the time I get to the top, I'm ready to come back down. I'm calm, but we're so used to holding it in, like, toughen up, buttercup, get over it and we don't get to express and release. And so the body so willingly says I'll hold this for you.

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I'll hold it right here until one day when.

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You're ready to.

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Look at it and that's really hard work. It's not for everybody, but really it's essential for everybody to consider.

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It is essential because the holding that right here is usually in your organs, and if you don't look at it, it does cause disease in your body.

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For sure. Yeah, this disease is is the outcome of so many emotional.

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You know, an inability to work through and release things in the body for sure, we.

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Know that, yeah.

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Yeah, it's kind of like.

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Fat cells generally are designed to store toxins, not just to make you look fat. And when you do detoxify, you tend to lose weight because your body can release those toxins and process them. But if you put so many toxins in, there's nothing.

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Yeah, yeah.

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There's nothing your body can't keep processing them cause, so they just have to like, shove it in the closet.

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Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I call it the the basement of our the basement of our nervous system. And I've heard this, this. I didn't make this up. I've heard this somewhere along the lot. The way that when we tuck it down into the basement of our nervous system, nervous system is the communication network between the brain and the body. When we tuck it down there, it gets to sit there and it literally starts to make.

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To take to do weights like it gets stronger and stronger and stronger, and then we know the unconscious that which we're not aware of, eventually seeps through into our expression and our attitudes and our the way we show up in the world. And so this is where I feel like we all have radical responsibility to do this work.

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And some people will have really good excuses why they can't. I don't have time. I've I'm over capacity. I don't have money. Whatever it might be. And it's like I know those stories. I really know those stories. And yet, you know, I get up at 5:30 or 6:00 every morning. And the first thing that I do is I.

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Move my I I do breath work.

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I scan my body. I have a practice that I do that which is a somatic breathwork.

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And then I get up and I move my body and it's whatever my body wants to do that day. I've been recovering from surgery on a torn ligament on my thumb, so obviously my movement practice looks different right now, but there's some form of movement every day, every day I go outside, I work 8 or 10 hour days some days, and I still make that a priority. I'm a parent. I still make that a priority.

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Because if I'm not good, nobody else is good that I get to.

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Be in the presence of.

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Yeah, it really is a matter of taking care of yourself 1st and and getting the resources and the help that you need in order to.

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Take care of yourself.

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Yeah, and there's a lot of free support and resources out there like I just want to acknowledge again that there's some people I did have coaches, and I had therapists that were on speed dial. There are some people that can't afford that they would not be able to afford my coaching.

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Really simple, really simple. Grab the book. All my coaching tips are in the book. You can do it at your own pace. There is a lot of free resources in our Community here in Canada. We have a lot of free mental health resources and it just takes that one step to make the phone call. I always tell my clients nothing changes until something changes.

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Nothing changes until something changes. What's one thing you can do today to lean lean and to change?

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And you don't have to take.

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Your life doesn't have to radically change all of a sudden.

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Because it won't stick.

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And to be honest, I hope your life doesn't radically change, because that's really a lot for the nervous system to have to process and then the body has to try to catch up and usually results in some kind of anxiety unless you know it's a really positive change. But for most of us, when life changes drastically, it's not necessarily what we would have.

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Pulled in and so it it becomes very difficult to process that. So I think like I always tell people, just lean into lean into the change just one little step, one little change, you know, increase your water intake every day. Start with that two, one or two glasses of water, decrease your sugar, decrease your gluten things that are inflammatory for the body that make you feel.

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Unmotivated cause you don't feel well in your body. Move your body. Get outside. Take 3 breaths every chance. You can't feel your feet on the ground like these are little tiny steps that make.

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A big difference.

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They do even even positive changes that happen really quickly are stressful for your body. You may be you may be overjoyed, but it you can get over stimulated to the point where your body is going to snap back and then it's going to.

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Feel weird and it's just like little changes. All you need to do are little incremental things differently.

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Tied to 8 jerkies a day.

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Yeah, not ten, not 5, just 8.

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Well, I'm recovering from the surgery and I have the OK now to be on my hand and to remove my splint when I'm sitting and and just at home and I'm trying to work towards 10 pushups on my knee.

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These and for those of you using 10 push-ups, that's so easy. It's like, yeah, it's not easy post surgery. And so I'm working towards that and I'm really proud of myself. If I can get.

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8 Push-ups today I was really proud of myself, and so you don't have to. It doesn't have to take hours and hours. It doesn't have to be.

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Really hard, but I I do believe that non negotiables for all of us is meditation. There's a million meditations out there. I'm not even going to give you mine because there's so many others. I have tons that are available as well, but there's so many.

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There's online yoga classes, there's online fitness classes, breathwork, one breath. Eckhart Tolle says one breath is an entire meditation, and I have a chapter in my book that says breathe and everything changes. And it's the neurophysiology of breath. One breath can change your entire experience of this moment before you're about to open your mouth and yell at somebody.

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Before you're about to do something that you're going to regret later, take a breath, take two breaths. Then maybe you could take 3 breaths.

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And use that with your thoughts too. I. You know, when when something comes across your mind and you know that you're going to play that record and it's not going to benefit you and everybody knows what I'm talking about because we all have those records that we put on from time to time. Take a breath. Decide.

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Am I gonna play this record? Is it really gonna help me?

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Is it going to make a difference in that other persons life if I'm playing this record about them?

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And is it even true? Like that's a big one, right? Byron. Kyle carries Byron case work. Katie. Byron. Thank you. Her work, you know, is it real? How do I know it's real? And what does that mean about me? If I believe it's real? Sorry, my dog is barking upstairs. They're.

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Is it true?

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Katie Byron, yeah.

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Good senior and he's deaf.

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So he's just looking for me.

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And I think that's such an important one.

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And I talked to a couple of kiddos the other day because I was sitting in a room in the school and one of them was arguing with the other one about.

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The reality of.

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The walls of the room that they were.

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You know, I said to them, you're both right.

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And they're like, no, I'm right. No, I'm right. And I started talking to them about how perception can seem so real that even my saying you're both right was hard for them to understand that even though they're right, how could the other person.

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Be right. And so we have these stories, we, I call them narratives and they they become really loud in our.

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In our brains and our lives. And what if we were to just put those down and just try to clear our mind for?

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Moment and come from a perspective. Take a breath, come from a perspective that maybe maybe there's some truth. Maybe it's not really true.

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Take a breath.

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And what does it matter?

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Yeah. Yeah. I always told my kids. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? My daughter's 26 and I've told her that from the like from the age of about 2 1/2 or three. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Like, I don't argue. I don't sweat the small stuff and I.

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Don't argue the small stuff with anybody if they really want to believe it.

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Believe it.

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It's no sweat off my back. Believe what you wanna believe. It's OK.

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Yeah, yeah. And it's a choice you have the choice, and you can change the past by what you personally believe about it. You can change relationships that have been destroyed because no two people look at an event in the exact same way, which goes back to your. The two boys were both right.

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It's the it's. It's all about perception. Everything in our reality is about perception. How do I perceive?

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We're going through and and how will I remember it? What's the story that I'm going to attach to it if it if I feel that there's that much significance and yeah, it's it's OK to change your stories.

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OK.

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In fact, it's it's good to change our stories and you know, you mentioned about how when we can change the narrative and change the story.

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We actually heal backwards, we heal backwards, we heal forwards. It's so important to do that.

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We a a really beautiful thing happened yesterday. We have a a local singer-songwriter in our community who have had the privilege of doing live yoga classes with. So he performed while I taught and I've met him just a couple of times. I would call him an acquaintance and he messaged me yesterday and he said I just finished reading your book.

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And I was so inspired by your book. I've written a song about it, about you and for you.

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And I got he sent it to me. I got, like, 10 seconds into the song and I was bawling with big, ugly tears because he's talking about beautiful girl like you. You you. It's the best. Essentially, the song is about denying my shadow to loving my shadow. Remember the disowned parts of ourselves and.

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When I we had a little dialogue back and forth and I said it's just such a beautiful song and you wrapped it up so beautifully.

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And he said because.

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Because that's part of my story, too, and part of what? What he said in the song, two things I want to say is he did mention that when we can heal and I write this in the book, when we heal the present moment, which, again, let's synonymously healing and love is the same thing when we can love what is, then we go back and we can change the healing that happens in the past.

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Happens because we can then change our stories. So one of the key phrases that I use in my book really regularly is everyone does the best they can, given their model of reality of the world, their capacity and their resources in any moment.

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And I tell people write that down, repeat it, remember it, put it on your computer, put it on your mirror.

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You are doing the best you can given your capacity, your, your conditioning, your capacity, and your resources in every single moment. And when we can start to believe that about ourselves and about the other, all of a sudden those things that we put judgment on from the past no longer matter.

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All of a sudden, my parents, who really set us up for our life of neglect and abuse in our childhood and early adolescence, I can see that through a different lens and what it opens up then is the portal to forgiveness and understanding and patience and, oh, deep, deep, deep love and nurturing for myself. But for them too, and then for their parents as well.

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So it becomes a beautiful work that's.

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Juicy and exciting and possible. If you say yes.

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It moves us into a future where others.

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Don't have to be faced with the the trauma and the way that we were faced with and yeah, while we can have gratitude for where that trauma brought us.

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In the future.

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We can grow, we can grow as as a as the singular Organism that we really all together are.

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All of humanity is connected. In fact, we're connected to everything on the planet.

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Much like trees, you know, like they're all connected and they all have things that work in the ground that you can't see that that move them and nourish them.

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But we're like.

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That too, we have energy that flows between us and and through us and.

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And I think because there's a movement towards recognizing this connection that.

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I like to imagine that there will be a world and a time and not the very distant future where wars will be a thing of the past. Boundaries, boundaries in, in terms of national boundaries will will cease to exist. People will move in communities and move into and out of communities.

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And and really.

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We celebrate who they are as individuals. That's that's my vision for the world.

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And one humanity, humanity three humanity 3.0. I have that vision as well, and I can feel myself just fully relaxing into your words because me too, just like me. I.

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When she laughed.

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I think it's possible and we carry we as a society, as a humanity carry so many stories and they're painful stories and I don't ever want to deny that they happened, but we got we have a chance. We really have a chance to, to change.

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Things and it's not that on a human level, anything that happened is ever OK.

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It's not OK, but on a soul level, on a spiritual level, why are we here? We're not here to stress. We're not here to fight. We're not here to put up what boundaries and and barriers and.

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You know all these things that keep us separate and make us forget who we are, but more importantly who we are to each other. So I totally agree with you. I I'm, I'm. I'm standing right alongside you in that vision.

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I I it it gives me hope and it makes me excited about the possibilities for the future. It makes me excited that our children and their children and their children's children will live in a world where.

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They can just be and and and experience.

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The world in a way that they're contributing, but they're also appreciating. It's like we lived in this world of competition for so long. The masculine energy is you have to be the best at everything well.

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And very performance based right? There are certain way you got to act a certain way. Got to talk a certain way. Got to do a certain work and you know that's still so heavy, especially in the corporate world. And I mean just depending on where you live. It's so big.

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And yeah, I really I love the idea first. So I just want to acknowledge when you said you just really have to hope for this because some people might be listening and saying that's never going to happen. Maybe it won't happen in our lifetime. But if I hope for it, if I have faith that there's something that I can do to contribute to it, then I'm going to do.

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That to contribute to it, so let's.

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All hope and let's all we talked about nothing changes till something changes. Let's all take a step in that direction. So what would that mean for you, the listener today, if you were to work towards?

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Reducing the divisions that are created between you and whoever the other is that you have judgment about anger, about about, you know, have cut off in your life. Like, what would it look like to take down that boundary or that barrier? What would that look like? What would it look like? Like you said, if you took a breath before you walked into the room and retold the same old story again and again.

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You know, I work with so many.

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I've worked with hundreds of thousands of people and every one of them has their own personality, right? Isn't that interesting? We all have our own little personality and attitudes and belief systems and so many of them believe.

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They are so right and they are living in the past. Yeah, but two years ago. Yeah, but a year ago. Yeah, but six years ago. It's like, let's let's do now. Let's be here right now. What are you feeling right here and now? And you know what usually happens?

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They start getting overwhelmed with tears. If they were to feel themselves in this moment without having to justify with the story of the past.

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They soften and when we soften tears come because it's not a familiar feeling, and yet it feels so good. These are tears of like, I'm not going to say joy, but contentment like I'm letting this through. Really. Yes. Yes, the release. Yeah.

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A release.

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That's so beautiful and and exciting too, it's like.

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The the message is getting out. I I talked to lots and lots of people.

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There are.

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Holding this space for humanity together, yeah.

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It's a beautiful world. It really. And the opportunity.

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Is just like.

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So, so expansive. So how do people work with you, Diana, I, we've, we've kind of gone all.

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Over the place here, but.

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So do you work with them in?

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I just love I I love these organic conversations. Like for people who listen, think that we've somehow scripted this. It's like, no, we just met and we just started talking. So I love this. I have a website, dianalockett.com. So DIANALOCKE tt.com. On my website. You'll see there's opportunities to do one-on-one coaching.

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With me.

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There's, I mean, I do virtual all over the world. There's opportunities to do either virtual or face to face consulting in corporations as well as my my really my big passion is educational centers because I've worked in education for 35 years. So I love to to work with groups in school boards.

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And help them understand.

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Who they are and how they are and to change how they show up for the students. You know, if we want to have this humanity 3 point.

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You know, it starts now. We've got to make a change with the little people that we get to interact with. So I work sometimes with groups. So for example, I might have like 800 secretaries on a zoom call, clerical staff, and they're the first person that the kids see when they walk into school or the parents see. And when I can get the secretaries to take down their defenses.

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Recognize their triggers, recognize how they're showing up, and find a different way then that changes the whole dynamic of the school. Or I'll have administrators, or I'll have teacher groups or teaching assistant groups. I also work with kids occasionally, but more more of the.

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And then.

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Yeah. My book, the call to freedom, is available on Amazon. It's also available on my website. And there is a link in the book, there's a QR code so you can get an embodiment. There's one for a heart meditation. And there's one for an embodiment, meditation, which is my signature embodiment, meditation practice called realign from realign to thrive, which is my business.

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Name and so if you go to dianalockget.com, you'll find everything that you need there and.

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I really thank you for having me on the call today.

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I really am grateful that you joined me. This has been an amazing conversation. Is there one thing that you really hope that the audience takes away from our conversation?

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So much from our conversation, but really what comes out is.

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I think that the the what we said what I said a few times is remember nothing changes until something changes and everyone is doing the best they can given their model of the reality of the world, their capacity and their resources, even you.

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And So what I hope is that when you hear that you can just take a sigh that go soften your shoulders.

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Reset and start again. That's all we can do.

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Breathe. Don't forget to.

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And breathe, breathe and everything changes. Yeah. Thanks, Diana. Yeah. Thank you.

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