Compassion, Surrender, Courage: 3 Keys to Healing + Aligned Manifestation
What if the reason “good advice” keeps falling flat… isn’t you?
In this episode of The You World Order Showcase Podcast, I’m joined by Serenity Lesley - certified life coach, author, speaker, and multi-passionate entrepreneur—who shares why real healing, confidence, and manifestation don’t come from observing other people’s lives… they come from lived experience.
We talk about the difference between knowing what to do and actually becoming the version of you who can do it—especially when fear, trauma, anxiety, or depression have shaped your path.
You’ll hear Serenity’s top three essentials for making an impact (and creating a life that feels aligned): compassion, surrendering control, and regularly challenging your fears. We also get into the truth about “containers” (safe coaching space with boundaries), why community can accelerate growth, and why AI is powerful-but cannot replace human connection, empathy, and soul.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why most advice doesn’t translate into real change
- Lived experience vs. “learning from others” (and what’s missing when you skip the experience)
- The hidden ways “success” can become addiction (and burn you out)
- Manifestation as an energy magnet (not force, hustle, or obsession)
- Why a coach’s container can feel safer than therapy for some people
- How groups create breakthroughs through shared perspective + reflection
- Using AI as a foundation-without outsourcing your inner knowing
Connect with Serenity:
Serenity offers a free 30-minute discovery call and a mini eBook: “250 Manifestations & Affirmations + How to Use Them.”
Visit: manifestingserenity.com
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She was told to learn from other people's mistakes, but healing?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Confidence and manifestation didn't come from observation, it came from lived experience. After walking through fear, trauma, anxiety, and depression herself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She discovered why most advice falls flat, and what actually works when nothing else does.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We'll get back to that in just a minute.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Hi, and welcome to the You World Order Showcase Podcast, where we feature life, health, transformational coaches, and spiritual entrepreneurs stepping up to be the change they seek in the world. I'm your host, Jill Hart, the Coach's Alchemist, on a mission to help coaches and entrepreneurs amplify their voice, monetize their mission, and get visible. If you're ready to start attracting premium clients without chasing algorithms or hunting people down like a banshee on a mission.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Today, we're chatting with Serenity Leslie. Serenity is a certified life coach, author, speaker, and multi-passionate entrepreneur who helps people manifest their dream visions through a serene, compassionate, yet courageous approach to life.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: From complex PTSD to becoming a globally traveled content creator, keynote speaker, and top 10 most book coach with over 500 coaching sessions, 50 hosted events, and a blog reaching over 500,000 in the metrics.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Serenity's work abridges healing, embodiment and aligned manifestation. She's also the author of It's Time to Manifest Your Vision and creator of hundreds of digital resources designed to support conscious, intentional living. Welcome to the show, Serenity. It's great to have you with us.
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::Serenity L.: Thank you for having me. It's an honor to be here.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So let me ask you the big question. What's the most significant thing, in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going?
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::Serenity L.: Mmm.
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::Serenity L.: Can I give one, or can I give three?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: As many as you want.
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::Serenity L.: The first one I would say is compassion. Having compassion for ourselves, having compassion for others, it's absolutely huge.
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::Serenity L.: We are humans, first and foremost. We're not perfect. Emotions…
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::Serenity L.: things happen. Number two, we can't control everything, so we still control.
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::Serenity L.: And surrendering that release of control is absolutely huge, so that we can actually let life happen, let other people in, let our manifestations make their way to us, and…
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::Serenity L.: The third one is… Regularly challenge our fears.
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::Serenity L.: Oftentimes, fears can be put in place to keep us safe.
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::Serenity L.: But they can also limit us from expansion, or from exploring new parts of ourselves, or even exploring new places, or exploring new opportunities. And those would be my top 3 that would
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::Serenity L.: Completely change, and… Help others to… Really step into their vessel.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I, I think…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: perhaps we could summarize it with having experiences. Allowing yourself to have an experience and not have to label it as good or bad, but just to enjoy the process, and allow yourself to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Have the experience in a way that Doesn't have to…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Things are gonna happen no matter what.
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::Serenity L.: Yeah, they are.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And we need to allow other people to have experiences instead of stepping in and trying to rescue them all the time.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: rescuing ourselves.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm Dan Hero.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm just saying.
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::Serenity L.: Absolutely, absolutely, and oftentimes.
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::Serenity L.: it can be very easy to get off of that path, right? We start to invest too much of our time and our focus into others, and we completely lose track of ourselves, or our own path, or even our sense of identity. And so, staying true to ourselves in that process is also important.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, authenticity, that's a big, kind of a buzzword this year. I know we're only in January right now as we're recording this, but
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: People… people are feeling the fake.
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::Serenity L.: There's so much AI out there, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You know, I…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Full transparency, I love AI, I think it's great, and it… it's a wonderful tool, but it is not human.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And we need human connection, and it will never replace that. It can't feel for you.
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::Serenity L.: With the world of AI, it can be very tricky. I actually have had many companies I've worked with where they actually gradually, slowly replace the human function with AI, and it's a very tricky…
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::Serenity L.: area to step in. The reason being is because people crave for human connection, and so having that opportunity essentially completely dismissed, overlooked, and replaced by a robot also replaces
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::Serenity L.: the opportunity for that connection from those people, and so they will seek that opportunity elsewhere. That's kind of that tricky balance. Also, too.
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::Serenity L.: I do love AI, as well. I think AI is very valuable in many essences of what it creates, but at the same time, I see it as something that's foundational, as it creates a very nice
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::Serenity L.: Structure or template, and then us as people, we can build on top of it and add personal elements and add the personal touches, and create that sense of connection with others.
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::Serenity L.: I love what AI can do in the background as it's taking over the background noise, while I'm able to actually have that connection, especially with my clients.
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::Serenity L.: Right? So AI can take the notes, and I can show up and be fully transparent, I can be fully present, and I can be fully engaged with a lot of my clients. That's an amazing example of that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Absolutely, and… sis… we have to remember that, yes, you can ask AI anything you want.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But it does not have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the soul, or the experience, and lived experience is so important, and we're going to talk about this as… in relation to your story, but they… it doesn't have a lived experience that it can…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: tie what you're saying, too. So, unless you have that personal experience, the questions that you ask, the prompts that you give it, are so important. And then when you get that feedback, you can't accept it as just
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Gospel, as they like to say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because… It may or may not be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It could have made something up out of whole cloth.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Based on other stuff that it knows, that it's drawn on, because really it's a glorified search engine.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It takes information from other places. It doesn't originate information.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And those sources aren't always vetted, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I often wondered if we wouldn't get to a place where so much AI content was put out there that AI was
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: just, like… Doing the circle thing, like, tele… the telegraph… telephone st… circle?
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::Serenity L.: Yeah, yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Where it gets distorted every time it's whispered, and at the end, it's like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: totally different than the original piece, and I think that that can happen, and I've seen it happen when you use AI for stuff. So, do you want to talk to having… how lived experience really plays into
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Into, A, your story, and B, how… how important it is in terms of
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Really getting a handle on the things that people struggle with.
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::Serenity L.: Yeah, absolutely. I…
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::Serenity L.: We'll kind of touch on the AI just in full circulation with the transition. So, with AI, I agree. I've noticed it has more of a validation factor. It doesn't really have the empathy. It doesn't really have that sense of actually listening.
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::Serenity L.: It just does a quick validation, and then with that validation, it…
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::Serenity L.: Can't really go beyond that because it lacks that human connection, and it lacks that human experience.
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::Serenity L.: And that can be dangerous in itself, because
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::Serenity L.: We don't always need that validation, sometimes we need more than that, and it can be tricky to get too much validation because then we're also not validating ourselves.
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::Serenity L.: So, very important, dotted line that can be valuable to consider. I've met some people that have considered actually replacing life coaches with AI, and I've, yeah, I've had to actually communicate that, that it's very dangerous in the sense of
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::Serenity L.: That… that's just one slice of the pie for that area. And again, it's a foundational element. You want it to give you journal prompts. Absolutely. You want it to be your full life coach? I don't recommend.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because you just don't know where they're… they're making… where it's making stuff up, or drawing correlations that aren't right. I mean.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It can tell you things
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: based on other stuff that it's pulled together, but it might not be the right conclusion. That's why it's really bad advice to go to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: your favorite AI and get medical advice.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's for that same reason. You… you need someone who knows what they're talking about.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to confirm it. You can… you can use it to, you know, say, does this sound right?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But don't… don't go to it and say, here, I've got this hip.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: ailment what medicines should I take, or what… what whatevers? Maybe it will be…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: sort of accurate. Maybe it'll be totally accurate, but you just can't be certain.
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::Serenity L.: Absolutely, I agree. But to circle back on your earlier kind of transition that you offered, so…
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::Serenity L.: I have found that lived experience is so incredibly valuable.
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::Serenity L.: The reason being is, because I've been through it, because I've lived through it, I'm able to have that deep sense of empathy, have that deep sense of understanding.
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::Serenity L.: I can also understand what emotions are going to be coming up. I understand all the mindsets and perspectives that may be shifting or showing themselves exactly
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::Serenity L.: Say, if you were in that situation.
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::Serenity L.: Right? And not only that, I'm able to offer you the compassion and grace and patience as you're figuring it out, and bring certain depth to the clarity questions of helping you find and light that
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::Serenity L.: that you're trying to get on. And for…
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::Serenity L.: Helping and assisting and empowering you to make the best choice for you, versus a biased opinion or an entire book of options.
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::Serenity L.: Right? That might actually have no correlation or full alignment, if it were to be on an example of what…
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::Serenity L.: with having the shared experiences, I've also noticed that I…
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::Serenity L.: Have an idea of multiple steps ahead.
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::Serenity L.: Right? As a part of the healing. Or, hey, I've tried that step, you may encounter X, Y, and Z. Or if you encounter this stuff, X, Y, and Z might happen. But what do you think would happen if you encounter it? Right? There's a lot more of that…
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::Serenity L.: clarity and power needs, and support. And again, the compassion and the grace.
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::Serenity L.: That I offer them. So, I've had multiple clients actually tell me that they felt even more of a connection with me than they did most therapists, because even some therapists, although they go into school for it, they don't have the lived experience of it.
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::Serenity L.: They've simply just chosen that path as their form of study, right? So that's an example, or…
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::Serenity L.: Some people are looking for an entrepreneur.
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::Serenity L.: But they often find themselves talking to people that aren't entrepreneurs. So when some people have lived experiences, I've also, healed the majority of my clients with PTSD. I…
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::Serenity L.: actively have healed a majority of my depression. I still get seasonal depression, but it's so amazing now the way that it was many, many years ago is completely different, right? Tried all the resources, the tools, shifted the dynamics, shifted the mindsets, and
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::Serenity L.: So, I had an idea of what does and what doesn't work. I've gotten to experience that firsthand.
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::Serenity L.: I've also, too, not only that, I've developed resources. I've developed…
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::Serenity L.: Different exercises to also help with that…
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::Serenity L.: reflection, that self-discovery, that empowerment that I offer for my clients. And if I didn't have all of that, it would often be…
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::Serenity L.: kind of blind in the dark with all of it, to be honest, and I would have a very difficult time guiding clients if I didn't have some of the experience that they were looking for, and if I hadn't been through it myself. And it would be very general, it would lack depth, it would…
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::Serenity L.: It just wouldn't be the same, and so I'm able to offer That answers your question.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Definitely did, and… It… It's so helpful to have A life coach who can…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Hold space for you in a way that's safe.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: but also… You know, we talk about containers.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that… that word's fairly new in our lexicon, but a container has boundaries.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And when you're holding space, Having a container means that there's space inside the container that's safe.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it's not gonna get… spill out into other… other spaces around it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I think it's a beautiful way to describe what coaches do versus what therapists do. Therapists have an agenda, and they're told
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: This is how we handle
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Patients that come to us, and you are a patient that goes to a therapist, this is how they handle different, diagnoses.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Versus…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: A life coach who says, okay, what are we working on? And let's climb into this container, and let's stay in this space.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And… You will figure it out. I will be the container.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'll hold boundaries for you, so that we…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We stay in… in the space.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So… When it comes to containers, do you do this one-on-one, or in groups?
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::Serenity L.: Currently, I do it one-on-one, but I would love to expand into groups. I've actually had the request of one of my clients to have more expanding groups. It's just a matter of time and the capacity. I will get there. One day.
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::Serenity L.: I'm hoping within this year, or the upcoming year, actually, so very, very soon. I can't give a full date yet, just, you know, a little bit of flexibility with it.
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::Serenity L.: In relation to your container.
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::Serenity L.: I'm very similar with it also being a safe space, right? And I understand your relation when you mention space is… can be expansive.
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::Serenity L.: Right? Which I also see being beautiful, but I understand the container, right? The container of our fall of a container of our session being very safe. And I also, too, want to piggyback on that and say a container doesn't have to be so rigid, it can also be flexible, right? As you expand, we expand.
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::Serenity L.: So, beautiful emphasis on this, and I completely agree about the therapist aspect. I've actually had multiple clients that were seeing therapists as well as myself at the same time.
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::Serenity L.: And therapists would often have, okay, we've done an assessment, I see that you've completed most of what you wanted to, and it's time for me to let you go. And they essentially just check the client off as done, right? Almost like a checkbox.
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::Serenity L.: And, I've also had some other clients with other therapists just say, it doesn't seem like you need therapy bad enough, so I'm gonna go ahead and release you as my client. I've heard that actually multiple times.
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::Serenity L.: And so, for me as a coach, I show up with them as they are, I grow with them on their path, very expansive, but I don't view my clients as a checklist. I don't say, like, hey, we're at the end of our package, you're done, go see somebody else. I could never fathom that. I, simply adapt to their new goals and the direction in which they're going, and
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::Serenity L.: Grow with them, within that…
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::Serenity L.: space that we're creating, and continue to support and empower them, and that's a beautiful aspect of that as well.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Love that so much, and it is… Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is, it's, it's… It's new, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think as more people discover the value of having
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Someone who knows all about them.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because you develop a relationship. The other two words that are coming up for me this year are connection and collaboration, and a life coach is a
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: collaboration partner, you… you work together to help you accomplish the things that you want to accomplish in different aspects. I mean, we all have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're not just, like, these flat beings that only have one interest, and we're only fixing one problem, because as soon as you fix or start pushing on one problem, four other things shift.
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::Serenity L.: Because.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is, you know, we only have We only have so much.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: space, I want to say space. The circle is only… round.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it can be divided into different sections, but, you know, sometimes those sections are going to move up and down.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And… and maybe they'll all be, like, totally round, and your bicycle wheels moving along very, very finely, and if you don't know about the life coach wheel, then…
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::Serenity L.: Love it, love that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Talk to Serenity.
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::Serenity L.: I use it quite often, I've actually expanded it. I've made my own edition, and I start off most packages with my clients with it, too, and piggyback lots of additional extra depth with it versus the initial resource that it once was.
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::Serenity L.: move on.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's a great jumping-off tool, because it allows…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: people to look at their life and decide, okay, where am I at in all of these different spaces, and what do I want to adjust, and what am I willing to give up in other areas in order to adjust this one?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because… Like I said, We only have so much bandwidth.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And… You know, there's… there's always going to be give and take.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that's… it's a beautiful thing, and if you have somebody that you can talk to about, you know, what are the… what are the consequences of making this decision?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that goes back to your lived experience. A lot of times, if you have a life coach who has a lot of lived experience.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: life experience. They can say, well, you know, this is gonna have minimal impact on most of these other areas, but it's gonna have a really big impact on this area.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think you should… you should work on it.
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::Serenity L.: Yeah, another good reflective point, too, is, oh, I know that you said that you've been really wanting to work on this area. Are you sure that you're willing to sacrifice this and this to be able to get that on this slice, right? In this area of your life? Yeah, very similar.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and, you know, most people are just, like, they go through life and they think, oh, I want this thing!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Totally forgetting that this thing comes with consequences.
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::Serenity L.: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And they might not like those consequences, but then they're suddenly hit with those consequences because they already jumped.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think, like, a… That's where groups are really handy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you have a community where people can, you know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Bounce things off each other, and sometimes people will ask questions that you know you've been thinking about that were too chicken to ask.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But they asked it, and you're like, oh, yeah, I really want to know the answer to that question.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or the last something that's, like, you hadn't even thought about, but it's life-changing?
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::Serenity L.: When you find the answer.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Where you explore the answer, you don't even find it, you can just explore it, because…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Often, things aren't black and white, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You may hear an answer, but it sparks something that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Totally different for you, or lands totally different for you, and changes how the trajectory of your whole life goes.
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::Serenity L.: Absolutely, absolutely. It really can.
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::Serenity L.: Yeah, and groups can be wonderful in that way.
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::Serenity L.: I think, though, it depends on the level of depth of what they're…
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::Serenity L.: looking for and what they're facing, though, too, because if it's something super deep.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Oh, yeah.
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::Serenity L.: There may be a little bit of a bias in a group, right, versus it being a little bit more one-on-one, so both are equally valuable. I've also heard clients say that they love the
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::Serenity L.: groups because they get to hear how other people think, and how they look at things, and their different perspectives, right? And sometimes even their reframes, and the ways they change how they see something.
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::Serenity L.: So, yes, very valuable, but also, too, depends on the level of depth of the situation, what that person is facing, or even what the direction that they're looking to go towards.
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::Serenity L.: Absolutely, absolutely, and… and it's…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Each individual has to make that decision for themselves. What are your goals coming into this?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What are your goals in life?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's amazing to me how many people don't have any goals in life. They're just kind of like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Floating through!
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::Serenity L.: I often meet people on both sides of the bracket. I meet people who have a ton of goals, and they're so ambitiously overwhelmed, and then I meet other people that are like, I don't know, I want to do… I wanna do this right now.
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::Serenity L.: Right, with no… path insight, and so oftentimes, I love doing this for clients, and I've even created
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::Serenity L.: a vision board course, and I have a book also, too, that I've played in with this. It's about 90% of the way done, hoping to get it published in November, but love the goals, love the alignment of the visuals with it, and I often help clients to really gain clarity in the different parts and the different aspects of this, too, right? And looking at seasons, and honoring our seasons, and looking at it and breaking it down quarterly.
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::Serenity L.: so it's not so overwhelming, and then breaking it down monthly, while also taking into consideration all of the Wheel of Life. And at first, if I'm saying this out loud, this may sound a little overwhelming, but I go step by step, and piece by piece, and showing up in that compassionate.
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::Serenity L.: gracious and patient way, because that's what we need, is we need somebody to sometimes Help us ground?
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::Serenity L.: Or help us to actually see that our visions can come true, and they are worth investing in.
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::Serenity L.: We just have to believe.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love fishing boards.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It just… it's a way for your mind and your eyes to…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: play, and it lets your subconscious work on this stuff. I've done them over a large portion of my life, and I love going back and looking at old vision boards and thinking, yep.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's part of my life, that's part of my life, that's part of my life. And it wasn't like I stared at it every day, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Made it come true!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There are people that think that that's what you do with a vision board, it's just, like, it…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You have to force it.
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::Serenity L.: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But it doesn't work like that. Manifesting is more of a…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: As an energy magnet than anything else.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I really don't think anything exists.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And everything exists.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I loved that movie.
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::Serenity L.: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can't even remember the name of it.
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::Serenity L.: I don't…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: everything, I'll… Together all at once, or something like that.
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::Serenity L.: That sounds familiar. Yeah, it sounds familiar. Oftentimes, I see manifestation as simply thinking it, seeing it, saying it, and making it happen, and that's actually my own quote.
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::Serenity L.: manifestation isn't necessarily just, I manifest this, and then it never, you know, nothing else happens after that. It's simply…
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::Serenity L.: putting it out there. So, you know, first have to think it.
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::Serenity L.: Right? To articulate it, know exactly what you're calling in, because you don't want to call in the wrong thing. You don't want to call in the negative or the opposite of where you're trying to go. So you think it, you say it.
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::Serenity L.: To make it a reality.
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::Serenity L.: Think it, say it, see it, so you can create your vision board, or you can simply start to put yourself in environments and places that are going to have your vision actualized.
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::Serenity L.: And making it happen, putting in the effort.
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::Serenity L.: To meet it halfway, right? Have you ever seen that Disney movie, Princess and the Frog? Do you remember that?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can picture the… I don't… I don't remember the… this story, but…
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::Serenity L.: So there's a portion in it, and I'm giving this visualization because sometimes having, like, a key element can really help in the nostalgia, the happiness, and the excitement of it. But there's this portion of it where she's working super hard
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::Serenity L.: But she doesn't have where she's actually believing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She's more so only thinking that it's going to happen if she's working 120% of the time.
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::Serenity L.: Right? Not actually having that portion where she can relax and also let it come to her.
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::Serenity L.: And that's an important element of it, right, is thinking it, seeing it, saying it, making it happen. But it's not all just about making it happen.
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::Serenity L.: sometimes there's also sitting back and relaxing and waiting for it to come, and that was a beautiful part of the movie that I just wanted to also pinpoint for some nostalgia for other people that also love that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'll have to make a note and watch it next time I'm with my grandkids.
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::Serenity L.: It's so cute, you'll love it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I haven't always been a fan of cartoons.
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::Serenity L.: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Some of the cartoons that have been made lately are…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: really good. Like, The Incredibles, I know that's an old movie, but… it was fantastic. Just…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: from a life perspective, each of the characters embodied somebody, and it just, like, it was definitely made for adults. And…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Then, Moana is another one of my favorites. I love the demigod.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And the grandmother, probably because I can kind of relate to her, though I don't have a big…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: manta ray on my back, but… Who knows? It's still time.
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::Serenity L.: Oh, goodness.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, earlier you mentioned discovering why most advice didn't work for you first, until you experienced things firsthand. What was the shift that finally changed everything for you?
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::Serenity L.: Mmm…
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::Serenity L.: The realization that…
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::Serenity L.: there's… a certain mindset… oh my goodness, how do I… I want to elaborate more on this.
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::Serenity L.: So earlier, we had talked about how having the gained experience, you gain the perspectives, you try multiple different areas, right, to be able to settle in the one that's right for you and most aligned.
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::Serenity L.: And… I had… Lived through the experiences of others and learned from them for a long time.
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::Serenity L.: But I started to notice that I was having similar things happen.
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::Serenity L.: But they just weren't exact. They were in similar alignment because I didn't have the…
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::Serenity L.: lived experience and perspectives of, okay, well, what if I tried X, Y, and Z, right? What would happen? What would I need to sacrifice? What would come into my circle? What would need to change? So…
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::Serenity L.: There was just a lot of it that was missing.
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::Serenity L.: Right, it's almost like…
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::Serenity L.: I could gain the 25% of, like, okay, don't do that, and don't do that, because X, Y, and Z is gonna happen from this person doing it. But at the same time.
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::Serenity L.: I didn't gain the perspectives, and it was harder for me to recognize it if it had other forms, if it had other faces, if it showed up in other ways.
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::Serenity L.: I didn't actually get to experience what it was like in my body to have that experience. I didn't get to experience the emotions of what that was like for me to have experienced that. I…
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::Serenity L.: also, too, didn't have the other aspect of processing what had happened and how to prevent it, because it didn't happen to me. It was simply just X, Y, and Z equals, you know, A. Like, it…
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::Serenity L.: it was more so a math problem, in essence, of being like, okay, I'll give you a specific example versus all this X, Y, and Z. So say, for instance, I grew up around addiction.
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::Serenity L.: So… If you do hard drugs.
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::Serenity L.: The consequence is you lose your health, you lose your job, you lose your family, you lose your sense of purpose, you lose your sense of identity, and you sacrifice all of the things that are important to you in life.
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::Serenity L.: okay, I learned that from that person. Still have never touched hard drugs, which is amazing, which is great, but…
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::Serenity L.: there were areas that I didn't acknowledge that were similar, is if you choose something.
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::Serenity L.: In full lessons, so say, like, if I decide I want to work, and I end up being consumed by my work.
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::Serenity L.: It's still a form of addiction.
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::Serenity L.: But in a different form.
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::Serenity L.: And with that comes sacrifice of loss of identity.
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::Serenity L.: I may be aligned with my purpose, but am I aligned with only this work's purpose, and not my own personal purpose? Sacrificing my health.
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::Serenity L.: Right? Sacrificing my family.
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::Serenity L.: And so, although they're very different, and although I can learn from somebody else, by me not having that aligned experience, I couldn't remind myself at the end of the day, be like, okay, don't forget, you want to end at 5, because your family is important to you, you want to eat all your meals, you want to have time to go out and have fun.
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::Serenity L.: You want to…
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::Serenity L.: Get some movement in so you feel really good, and you get that boost of serotonin and dopamine, and you feel amazing going to bed, and have a little bit of that time to relax and meditate, and just have time for yourself.
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::Serenity L.: Right? All of these reminders. I wouldn't have been able to get to that point in those reminders, and that self-comfort, and that care.
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::Serenity L.: And that alignment with what's important to me, I didn't experience that for myself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That is such a beautiful explanation, and it's not just for entrepreneurs. People do that work all the time, and companies.
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::Serenity L.: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because they benefit, Because they can have more time for themselves if you're doing all the work.
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::Serenity L.: But it's… it's universal.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, entrepreneurs fall into that trap, and they don't even… they don't even realize it until it's too late. Everybody that is… has the propensity for that sort of addiction, and it is addiction.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's a dopamine…
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::Serenity L.: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Released when… when you're, like, getting those attaboys, and it's always, like, you're always craving more and more and more, versus…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Living with the serotonin.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That is much more serene, and… Sustainable.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: our bodies… You know, we get that dopamine hit. It should be rare.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But our society is all wired so that it's like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Gotta get that A, gotta get that A, gotta get that A, gotta be the best, gotta be the best! What?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Really, you don't.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: be pretty good and have a great life. More rounded.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Maybe all your… maybe your circle is just a circle of fives, but they're all fives. That roll is gonna roll smooth. That wheel's gonna roll smooth.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you've got 10 in your business, and then, like, 3s everywhere else, it could be real bumpy.
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::Serenity L.: I actually recently did a presentation on honoring your seasons. It was actually a workshop I hosted for another company, and…
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::Serenity L.: In it, I also added the statistics that 60% of entrepreneurs actually hit burnout and mention hitting burnout in the study, and 45% of them, or 45% report
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::Serenity L.: As employees, so 45% of employees and 60% of entrepreneurs. So entrepreneurs actually rush into that a little bit heavier, but still, it's very relevant. It's very much so there.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Oh, and Susan's is such a great…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If we can honor seasons in our life.
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::Serenity L.: As well.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: As well as during the year. You know, not everything has to be done at the same time.
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::Serenity L.: Human.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: The… Yeah.
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::Serenity L.: I had, I actually recently had, in that presentation, I had a lot of people actually asking me, especially coaches, they were like, okay, well, how do I align my work with my seasons? How do I align my…
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::Serenity L.: personal life with my seasons, and maybe that's something we can dive into in the future, but definitely areas that I'm able to help with. Just wanted to mention that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, it's super important. I talk to young moms a lot, and it's like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: This is just a season, and it's gonna pass fast. Take advantage of it. Everything else can wait. Your kid is only gonna be that little in a short, short time.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm really passionate about that. It's like, Mom?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just take the whole year off. They do it in other countries, you know.
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::Serenity L.: France, you get a whole year. You need that year.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're setting a foundation for this kid for the rest of their life.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you're gonna bring somebody into the world, Give them your full attention.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: At least that long.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's my opinion.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm sticking to it!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, how can people find out about you, learn more about you?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Get on a call with you for your free 30-minute coaching session, or… it is free, right?
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::Serenity L.: Yes. I'm misspeaking here. And I know that you offer 250 ultimate manifestations and affirmations and how to use them. Yes. How do people find all this?
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::Serenity L.: So, on my website, ManifestingSerenity.com, on my homepage, you can actually find different strips, where you can find different forms of information. So you can find a strip just for my coaching, you can get taken to my coaching page, and there's a button where you can actually get your 30-minute free discovery call, where we go over exactly where you're at, where you're looking to go.
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::Serenity L.: Where you may be feeling stuck and you're needing some clarity, and just overall hearing you making that space, so I would love to see you there. And also, too, there's another strip you'll find for the 250 affirmations and manifestations. It's a little mini e-book. You can have affirmations for every single day of the week, if you would like there. I absolutely love that, especially for clients who love to journal, or clients who love to put up
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::Serenity L.: sticky notes and just need a little bit of inspiration and those reminders there. I do also mention what affirmations are, what manifestations are, how to use them, and more expansive ways to grow into it, so that's all there, too. I have
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::Serenity L.: much more resources on my website as well, you're welcome to explore that. And ultimately, if you need anything, you can always reach out to me there and find all my information. Again, my website is manifestingSerenity.com.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that. I love the name of it.
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::Serenity L.: Thank you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thanks for joining us today. It's been a great conversation.
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::Serenity L.: My husband, I love the organic aspect of it, both organic collaboration, as you had mentioned.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's great to connect.
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::Serenity L.: Super. Such an honor. Thank you so much.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To learn more about Serenity, and to learn more about
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what she has to offer and connect with her, please go to manifestingSerenity.com, and we'll be sure to put all these links in the show notes below. Thanks for tuning in today to the You World Order Showcase Podcast. If you're ready to amplify your voice, monetize your mission, and start attracting premium clients.
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